Grandparenthood – perfectly imperfectBlog
posted April 4th 2018
I began my content writing business, My Words Work For You, in 2013. I write for a varied list of clients but The Grandparents Hub is one of my favourites. I am an active ‘guide parent’ to Matilda, aged two, a great aunt (I prefers ‘fabulous aunt’) to Beatrice, very nearly four, and a regular babysitter to Peter, Oscar, George and Sophie. The ‘void’ left as my own children became adults has been filled with experiences that I share with you here. The Grandparents Hub is a voice for all of us whose lives are enriched by little ones.
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I was excited about the thought of grandparenthood, of course, but nothing prepared me for the additional benefits it would bring. How many of us envisaged being a grandparent and imagined the cuddles, the love, the second chance to ‘get it right’? I know I did. Speaking from experience, there is no such thing as a perfect parent, and nor should there be. Arguably, it is healthy for children to see their parents as fallible, to understand that life is not perfect.
We all like to think of our children as perfect, I love this quote:
What about us grandparents, do we need to be perfect? What is perfect?
I am rather enjoying being imperfect, my more ‘relaxed’ style of grandparenting includes treats, biscuits, late bedtimes, adventures and knowing that there is time for housework when the children have gone back to their parents, it can wait. There are so many magic moments that infiltrate my day when the little ones are sharing it with me.
Apart from the obvious, the life enhancing joy of this most precious of bonds, there are many more benefits that might not be immediately obvious. Allow me to highlight a few here to get us started. Let’s create a ‘Grandparent benefits Handbook’, feel free to add to the list from your own experience.
Keeping fit/mobile with increased activity
Unconditional love given and received
Meaningful ways to fill your time
Supporting your family, practically and otherwise
Chance to re-live childhood
Keeping the grey cells whirring
Keeping in touch with how life is for the young. A very dear friend once said to me, “You have to hang on to the young generation by the shirt tails, or they will go without you.”
Excuse to visit some cool attractions
Higher incidence of laughter in the house
Conversations you never thought you would have
After all of the magic, you get to hand them back!
How has grandparenthood enhanced your life? Let’s share the magic.